The term 'mid-life crisis' is nothing new to our ears, but quarter-life crisis? Are you going through your twenties, and constantly feel like your life is getting more and more confusing and you have no idea who you are and what you want in life? Fear not. Welcome to your quarter-life crisis. Keep on reading because you may totally recognize yourself in the list of symptoms below. And you'll realize: you're not alone and you're definitely not crazy!
1. You feel like your job is a prison cell you can't escape from
Feeling trapped in your job is the most common sign of being in a quarter-life crisis. You probably feel like every day it's the same old story and the thought of doing this for another few decades scares the crap out of you. Truth is: you shouldn't be thinking ahead a you as can never predict the future. Who knows what's in store for you? So many exciting things can happen career wise, as long a you're open to it. Don't feel 'stuck' in your job. If you've got a job you like it'll all work out. If you've got a job you hate, please stop yourself from being miserable and start looking for a new one.
2.You feel like you have failed
Typically, when you hit your quarter-life crisis, you're judging yourself way too hard. There seems to be nothing you can do right. You think people have certain expectations from you and you compare yourself to others all the time. But why? There's only one you. Just do things at your own pace and don't stress about pressure from society. Nobody's perfect and nobody is forcing you to live by some sort of rules.
3. You feel like your not fitting in
Some of your friends may still be party animals that spend their Friday nights out clubbing and the rest of their weekend hung over, while you'd much rather just Netflix and chill. It is totally normal to not feel like you need to hit the clubs or go to every party you can on the weekend. You're an adult and you can do whatever you want on a night off. It probably means you’re listening to your body and choosing to do what you really want instead of what your friends want.
4. You get anxious scrolling through Facebook posts about weddings and pregnancies
This is the age where everybody around you seems to be living together, getting married and starting a family. These things cause a certain feeling of group pressure and a feeling of having to live up to certain standards, but in reality, life can't be planned. Some are at that point in their lives in their early twenties, some in their late thirties and some will never be. Everyone has their own path and life isn't a competition. You'll be ready when you're ready, no matter how old you are.
5. You feel like your twenties aren't turning out like you expected
We've all been there when we were younger: we fantasized about what life would be like when we're older and all grown up. You'd tell yourself you'd have your life sorted by then. But you'll probably find yourself still feeling like a kid some days, not having a clue what to do with your life. It's all part of your quarter-life crisis and it's totally normal. Everyone will reach that moment in life where you do feel like you've got your shit together and you get back into this state of calmness and feeling like you've got everything under control. And that my friends, is when you're over your quarter-life crisis. At what age that will be? Well, that is totall different for everyone and that's totally okay.
So relax, don't worry and enjoy the best years of your life before your mid-life crisis is there to mess with you all over again!
Posted by Malu Swartjes on 06 October 2016